GreyRocked

Let Sprout hold it 🤲

Don't send it hot. Give it to Sprout instead — GreyRocked never sends what you put here anywhere. (The 🎤 is your browser's own speech typing; the Privacy page says what that means.) When your heart slows down, you two can read it together and decide.

How long should Sprout hold it?

Practice with me 🎒

Sprout deals practice cards — the moves they usually make, and your line, ready before you walk in.

Are you going?

Pick who'll be there

My plan 📋

Decided while you're calm, so you don't have to decide while you're not. It's built from what you've already told Sprout — change any part in My people or My lanterns and it changes here too.

Your idea shelf 💡

Your ten most-loved ideas float to the top of your own shelf. Tap "me too" on anything you wish for — it moves that idea up for you, and nowhere else. The tap stays on this device.

Plant an idea 🌱

What should Sprout learn to help with? Your wish goes on your own shelf, and Sprout also tries to pass a copy along to the people who make GreyRocked, so we know what to grow next.

What you type here is sent to the people who make GreyRocked (the Contact page is the only other thing that is) — so please keep your family's actual words, and anybody's name, out of it. Write the wish, not the story.

The lantern walk 🏮 (a side-room, for the curious only)

This lives all the way over here on purpose. Your answers always come from your own lanterns — full stop, no exceptions. But some people are curious how a moment would sound through a different heart — as a window, never as advice. If that's ever you: pick a moment, tap a lantern, and we'll take a little walk. A maybe, never a must.

Which moment? Your last question, or any page from your book. My last question Which lantern?

Add a person

Their name Who are they to you? Tap one. How do you want to handle them? Tap one. This shapes every reply Sprout writes. How do they come at you? Tap all that apply. Sprout uses this to keep you safe. How are you willing to be reached — if at all? Tap all that apply. You pick the channel. Always. What do they usually do? Tap everything that fits. The more you tap, the better Sprout understands.

Your people

Backup chest 🧰

A spare copy of everything, just in case — for a new phone, or if your phone or browser ever loses what's saved here. Copy it somewhere only you can read, like a note on your own phone. To bring everything back, tap Show / paste backup and paste it in. The backup is plain text, so anyone who sees it can read it. Keep it somewhere only you can open.

Everything you save lands here — what really happened, in your own book. Patterns can't hide from a book.

My lanterns 🏮

A lantern is a way of seeing things. It shapes the words Sprout gives you — most of all when they push back. Tap every one that feels true; most people pick one or two. Not sure yet? Leave it on 🛡️ Protect me first.

Choose your lanterns 🏮 Tap as many as feel true.

Your words are yours 🔒

GreyRocked keeps what you save on your device. Everything you save (your people, your book, your held words) lives only on your own device. The tap-button answers never touch the internet at all. If you paste words for a deep read, they're sent once for thinking, answered, and forgotten — never stored, never read by a person, never used to teach anything. Your family's mess is not our data. It's your life.

The one rule no lantern can change

Whatever stance you pick: Sprout never blames you for being tricked or hurt, and never tells you to say sorry for having boundaries. That's the floor. It doesn't move.

Why Sprout thinks this way 🌱

Where do Sprout's ideas come from?
Scientists and helpers have studied for a long time how people trick and pressure the ones close to them. The tricks are so common they have names — guilt trips, fake apologies, flipping the story. Sprout learned the names, and the old, tested ways to answer them. None of it is made up.

Sprout's three big ideas:
1. People earn closeness by how they act — not just by being family.
2. You can't control what they do. You can always control what you do back. (People figured this one out about two thousand years ago. It still works.)
3. Being kind to yourself isn't a treat. It's a job. Yours.

What Sprout will never do:
Blame you. Rush you. Tell you to apologize for protecting yourself. Or write anything that would look bad shown to the whole family.

About the lanterns:
They come from many old traditions — some from faith, some from philosophers, some from plain human fairness. No tradition owns kindness, and no lantern is the "right" one. They answer different questions: some are about your safety, some about your own heart, some about what it would take to come closer. That's why you can carry more than one.

And two honest things:
Sprout only ever hears your side of the story — that's why Sprout helps you decide, and never decides for you. And Sprout is a friend, not a doctor or a judge. For the biggest, heaviest things, real humans you trust matter most.

Where the lanterns come from 🏮

Nothing in GreyRocked was invented from thin air. The tricks have names because researchers named them: DARVO — deny, attack, reverse victim and offender — comes from psychologist Jennifer Freyd's research at the University of Oregon. "Don't JADE" (justify, argue, defend, explain) and gray rock grew out of recovery communities who learned them the hard way, one boundary at a time.

And the lanterns borrow honestly from old traditions: the calm fortress from the Stoics — Epictetus, who taught that what's outside your control can't own you, and Marcus Aurelius, who wrote that the insult belongs to the one who throws it. Truth & teshuvah from Jewish teaching, where forgiveness follows real repentance — in that order. Patience & kinship from Islamic thought on sabr and the ties of family, held without surrendering to harm. Courtesy without surrender from the Confucian understanding that honoring the form is not handing over the self. Peace & letting go from Buddhist non-attachment. Faith & grace from Christian teaching that forgiveness and trust are different gifts, given differently.

Why a shelf of lanterns instead of one? Because the person who made GreyRocked came to believe one thing above the rest: the philosophies we carry quietly drive the lives we experience. Hand someone one fixed worldview and you've given them advice. Hand them a shelf of lanterns and you've given them a way to think.

One more secret: the lanterns are also windows. Curious how a different heart would see your situation — or how the person across the table might be seeing it? Borrow a lantern for an afternoon. Understanding a viewpoint was never the same as surrendering to it. And to be very clear: this is completely optional. Your lanterns are yours, they are enough, and nobody here will ever push a different one on you. Borrowing is for the curious, on the days curiosity feels good — and no other day.

What's new in the garden 🌱

Every time GreyRocked grows, Sprout writes it down here — so you always know what changed, in plain words.

Your words are yours 🔒

Everything you save about your family stays on this device. The only things you send us on purpose are what you type into Contact or the idea garden.

What stays on your device: everything you save — your people, your book, your held words, your lanterns, your wins. It all lives in your own browser's storage, on your own device. There is no account, no cloud, no list of users with your name on it.

What never touches the internet: every tap-button answer. Sprout's little book of old tricks is built into the app itself, so instant answers work with the internet off entirely.

What happens on a deep read: if you paste someone's exact words and ask Sprout to think deeper, those words are sent once — securely — to the thinking engine, answered, and forgotten. They are never stored, never read by a human, never used to train anything, and never shown to anyone.

The two things you send us on purpose: a report from the Contact page, and a wish from the idea garden. Those are the only things from you that we read, they only travel when you tap send, and each one says so right where you type it. A report also carries a boring technical note (app version, browser, whether storage works) and, if you choose to type one, the email address you'd like a reply at. Nothing else rides along — not your people, not your book, not one word you wrote about your family. Where do those two land? In a Discord channel that Sprout's humans read (Discord is another company) — and what you sent sits there until we delete it.

A visitor count: GreyRocked is hosted by Cloudflare, and we use Cloudflare's Web Analytics to see roughly how many people visit and how quickly pages load. It uses no cookies and puts nothing on your device, and GreyRocked does not send it anything you save or type. It counts visits; it does not follow you around the internet or build a profile of you. Like any website, the host can see your IP address and browser type when a page loads.

If you tap a 🎤 button: that's your browser's own speech typing, which means your browser may send what you say to whoever made it to turn it into text.

What we will never do: sell what you send us, show you ads, build a profile of you, or use your family's hardest moments as data. Your family's mess is not our business model. Your peace is.

Leaving is easy: your backup belongs to you (My people → Backup chest), and the button below removes everything GreyRocked saved on this device. It cannot clear your browser history. It asks you twice, so nothing goes by accident, and nothing GreyRocked saved stays on this device. Erase cannot remove anything you already sent through Contact or the idea box.

A plain home screen 🫥

If someone else might open GreyRocked on this device, this hides your plans, your hard-things count and the "I wrote something angry" door from the home screen. Nothing is deleted — My plan, My book and Sprout's menu still open as normal.

A passcode, if you want one 🔑

If someone else can pick up your phone, this puts a curtain in front of GreyRocked. You'll be asked for a passcode each time it opens.

Be clear on what this is: it's a curtain, not a vault. It stops somebody who picks up your phone and opens the app. It will not stop somebody who knows their way around a browser — your book is still stored on this device in plain form. For a situation where that matters, the safest thing is still a private window (one that forgets everything when you close it) plus the erase button above.

And there's no way to reset it for you. Nobody here can see it or recover it. If you forget it, the only way back in is to erase everything and start again — so keep a backup (My people → Backup chest).

The plain-language terms 📜

Most terms pages are written so you won't read them. This one isn't. Here is the whole deal.

GreyRocked is free, and there's nothing to sign up for. GreyRocked is free today: no account, no password, no email required. If that ever changes, it changes for new things — never by taking away what you already have.

Sprout is a friend, not a professional. GreyRocked is not therapy, not medical care, not legal advice, and not a crisis service. It helps you read a message and decide what to do. It cannot know your whole situation, and it only ever hears your side. For anything heavy — your safety, your health, your legal position, your children — please involve real people who are qualified to help. The Safety page has starting points.

Every decision stays yours. Sprout suggests words; you choose whether to send them, and you're responsible for what you send. We can't promise an answer will fit your situation, and we're not liable for what happens when you act on one. That isn't lawyer-speak to dodge you — it's the honest shape of what a small app can and can't know.

Your words belong to you. Everything you save stays on your device and we never see it. The two things you can choose to send us — a report from the Contact page, a wish from the idea garden — we may use to fix bugs and decide what to build. We won't sell them, publish them with anything identifying attached, or use them to train anything. The Privacy page has the full detail.

Please don't use GreyRocked to hurt somebody. It was built for people on the receiving end of cruelty. Using it to script harassment, manipulate, or intimidate someone is the one thing it was never for.

Age. GreyRocked is meant for 13 and over. If you're younger than that and things at home are hard, you deserve help — please talk to an adult you trust, a teacher, or a helpline from the Safety page. They can do things an app can't.

Things may change or stop. GreyRocked is small and new. Pages will change, features will come and go, and it may one day close down. Keep a backup (My people → Backup chest) and your book is yours regardless.

If something here seems wrong, tell us on the Contact page. We would rather fix it than argue about it.

Last updated 9 October 2026 · Written in plain English on purpose. It has not been through a lawyer yet.

Something broken? Something missing? 💌

If Sprout did something odd, a button didn't work, or you have an idea that would make GreyRocked better — we really do want to hear it. This app grows from exactly this.

What kind of thing is it? Tap one. Tell us what happened Describe what the app did — please keep your family's actual messages out of it. We don't want them; that's the whole point of us. Want a reply? Optional — leave your email only if you'd like us to write back.

Tapping send is what makes this leave your device — nothing here goes anywhere until you do. Your report travels with a little technical note (app version, browser, whether storage works) so we can fix things faster, plus your email only if you typed one. Never your book, never your people, never a word you wrote about your family.

The important stuff 🆘

If you're worried someone might hurt themselves: You don't have to be the one in crisis to call 988. In the US, you can call or text 988, or chat at chat.988lifeline.org, for someone else, any time, day or night. It's free. Tell them what worries you, and they'll talk with you about what to do. If someone has told you about a plan to hurt themselves, don't keep it secret: contact 988 or encourage them to. If they are in danger right now, call 911. Outside the US: findahelpline.com.

Sprout is a friend, not a therapist, a doctor, or a lawyer. GreyRocked helps you read messages and hold your ground. For the biggest, heaviest things, real humans matter most.

If the weight ever feels like too much: you deserve real support, not just a seedling in an app. A therapist who understands family trauma is worth their weight in gold. In the US you can call or text 988, or chat at chat.988lifeline.org, any time. You can also contact 988 if you're worried about someone else. If you might act on it soon, call 911. Anywhere else in the world, findahelpline.com will point you to a free, confidential line in your own country in about two taps.

If anyone threatens you or you feel unsafe: that's bigger than any app. Tell people you trust, and call 911 (US) or your local emergency number. Keep the messages themselves (screenshots work) — your book keeps what happened and when, but not their exact words, and real protection comes from real people.

If somebody else can pick up your phone: please read this one. GreyRocked keeps everything in your own browser, which means anyone who can unlock your device can open it and read your book, your notes about people, and the words Sprout is holding for you. If you live with the person you're protecting yourself from, this matters more than anything else on this page.

Four things help:
• Open GreyRocked in a private window (your browser's menu may call it Private or Incognito), so nothing is left behind when you close it.
• Use the Erase everything button on the Privacy page whenever you're done.
• Use the 🚪 Leave button in the top corner (or Esc, on a keyboard). It clears the screen and leaves for a weather page straight away.
• Add an optional passcode on the Privacy page, as a curtain in front of it. Read what it does and doesn't do before you rely on it.

One thing GreyRocked can't tidy up: your browser keeps its own memory of where you've been — your history, and the suggestions that appear when you start typing in the address bar. The Leave button can't reach any of that. Opening GreyRocked in a private window is what stops your browser writing it down in the first place.

If home is where the unsafe person is: in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is there day and night — 1-800-799-7233, or chat at thehotline.org if talking out loud isn't safe right now.

If a grown child keeps pressing you for money and it's starting to scare you or leave you short: you're not alone, and there is help for exactly this. In the US, the Eldercare Locator (1-800-677-1116, eldercare.acl.gov) can connect you to your local Adult Protective Services, confidentially. Some people call this financial exploitation, and it can be reported. You don't have to decide that today.

If you're not a grown-up yet: Childhelp is for exactly this — 1-800-422-4453, or childhelphotline.org. It's free, it's confidential, and talking to them is allowed.

And one thing Sprout wants you to hear: needing help is never weakness.